Introverts Misunderstood

I am an ambivert. Do you know what that means? I am totally open to a gathering, a party, or a group discussion and at the same time I love being alone, all to myself. I lie somewhere between the two traits of an introvert and an extrovert. I have a balance of extrovert and introvert features in my personality. Well! I am very happy with my personality because I can be ecstatic with a bunch of people and can carry the same amount of ecstasy when I am solitary. Ambiverts are quite common everywhere.

Apart from ambiverts, there also exist other personalities like introvert, extrovert, and omnivert. Everyone is aware of introverts and extroverts but are less aware of omniverts and ambiverts. Omniverts can be either, they play a complete role as an introvert or an extrovert at different times. They cannot balance or stay in the middle. They switch roles. 

Let us talk about extroverts and introverts!

Enthusiastic Extroverts:

Extroverts are real fun, but not for introverts. They love to talk, meet new people, always up for partying, cannot hold secrets, extremely out-going, etc. Extroverts are almost considered by everyone in every field because they prove to have excellent communication skills. 

The following are some of the characteristics of an extrovert

Approachable: Extroverts are greatly approachable. One will not hesitate to go near an extrovert, talk, share, and explain things. It is so easy when you hang out with extroverts, they will let you open up and will take everything with a pinch of salt. They do not limit themselves and they will be the first one to start a conversation even if it is a stranger. They are easy to approach. 

Energized: They are charged 100% always. Even though they are tired after a long day, they will still have some powerful energy in store to speak. They are very energized that they can change the ambiance of the whole set all alone. They love to spread the energy and are happy to be surrounded. 

Talkative: They love to talk, talk, and talk! Actually talking makes them glad. Their energy will be multiplied when the other person is up for talking just like the way they do. They feel violated in the room of silence. They reckon it is exhausting to deal with silence. Not everyone extrovert is like that, some tolerate it pretty well though. Some extroverts respect others’ private space and will let them be silent. So if you are an introvert, look out for this type of extroverts who would love to leave you alone at times. 

Flexible: Extroverts are highly flexible. They are ready to accept new things in their life. They will get adapted to the changes with ease. They are spontaneous too and are ready even if things are unorganized. 

No alone time: Extroverts do not require lonely therapy like introverts. They love to spend all the time they have with people. Let it be friends, family, neighbors, or strangers they welcome everyone. When they are alone, dullness occupies them like a cloud. So, they do not prefer being alone. 

These were a few characteristics of an extrovert. Some think all the extroverts are attention-seeking and create a lot of drama, but not everyone does it. Only some extroverts are like that. 

Isolated Introverts:

An introvert is defined as a quiet and reserved person. They often choose to be alone. They do not like parties and stuff. 

Certainly, there is a lot to think about them. Let’s kick off with the characteristics. 

Alone time: Alone time is absolutely significant for an introvert. They prefer being alone. Let us suppose there is a party happening at the introvert’s house, despite all the relatives and friends, the introvert decides to go into an isolated place and lock up. They do not care. 

Being social saddens them: If there is a day in the life of an introvert, where he/she has the busiest day and stuck with people all day, trust me their energy drains out. They cannot face it, they will feel dreadful and will try in every possible way to run off. 

A smaller circle of friends: They tend to have a tiny group of friends and they do share things with them. They prefer solitude in that smaller group too. Fewer people make them happy and more people make them awfully suffocated. 

Goes for chatting rather than talking: Chatting is less awkward for an introvert when compared to talking. They’ll go mad if you suddenly call them out of blue. They sometimes do not care to lift your call and they do not feel bad about it all.

These were a few characteristics of an introvert. 

Introverts Misunderstood:

Apart from these introverts are hugely misunderstood by almost everyone. The myths about introverts are not true for everyone. They vary for every individual. Almost every trait of an individual is misunderstood and that makes them vulnerable. 

The following are some things we assume about introverts, which they are not actually. 

1. Introverts are shy: Introverts are neither shy nor nervous. They just don’t like to surround them with people, it has nothing to do with shyness. They are exceptionally confident.

2. Introverts are socially anxious: Are they? Did you study them? They are not to my knowledge. They are not panicked when they are social, they just don’t like to lead such life where others are involved. That does not make them or prove them socially anxious. 

3. Introverts do not make good leaders: Are you sure an extrovert can? It is not sure either! Leadership has nothing to do with this. Introverts do talk if it is necessary, they just stay away from unnecessary meetings. They can be good leaders and can guide well as they are good at listening, which is an essential quality of a leader. 

4. Introverts are rude: Extroverts are rude too. Aren’t they? Not every extrovert is polite and not every introvert is rude. Introverts are not as expressive as an extrovert, they too feel bad for the things that are meant to be. But they do not show them in public, they like to keep their feelings to themselves. 

5. Introverts are poor public speakers: People think introverts tremble with fear in the case of public speaking. They can set the stage on fire, they can speak fluently without shivering. They not talking with you doesn’t mean they are dumb. Some introverts do not like talking in public gatherings, but they may have brilliant speaking skills. 

6. Introverts are depressed: Wow, are you a psychologist? On what basis did you declare this? Is it just because they are aloof? They are silent in crowds but they might jump in their beds and dance their heart out with thumping music when they are alone at home. Not every introvert is depressed, actually, some extroverts hide so much of pain behind their smile.

7. Introverts do not know how to enjoy: If they not partying with you at midnight is the reason for making this statement, then just forget it. They have their own ways to enjoy life. If both your ways don’t cross, no one should be blamed. Let them enjoy their life in their own terms.

8. Introverts do not explore/ adventure: I agree that they do not like crowded places, but they like to visit new places, see new inventions, eat new cuisines, go for adventures, and explore every nook and corner. Maybe they like to do it alone, or with their own teeny weeny circle of people.

Don’t judge a book by it’s cover

                                   -George Eliot