“It’s all going to be okay”
Isn’t that the most common thing we’ve been told? And yeah, it probably and mostly will be okay. Cause that is the way this system of life works, doesn’t it? There are good days and then there are bad ones. There are days which we wished never ended and then the ones which we wished ended right away. You never know you are happy if you have been sad as well, never know what good times are if you haven’t been to the bad ones as well.
But I’m not here to talk about the cycle we have all been through. I’m here to talk about the ‘it’ll be okay’ part. Because what we want to hear at that very moment is not the part where the soon to come future days will get better and we’ll be okay but what will happen now and what do we do when in the moment. Because obviously, if we’re hearing an ‘it’ll be okay’ from someone it does mean we really aren’t okay at that moment.
What is okay is to not be okay. Sometimes there’s just these huge pile of emotions that we dip into and we are too deep drowning to find a way out. We feel a lot of things at the same time and nothing at all. I don’t have to put it in words because I’m hoping you know what I am talking about.
So yes, when in the moment or when in the present there’s no saying that it will be okay. But it is in those very same moments that we realize something much bigger and something much more valuable.
It is weird and ironical at the same time that the times or the instances that made us feel at our lowest were the very same ones that help us realize our worth. Confused a bit? Let me rewind it for you.
Put your imagination in any such situation when you were at your lowest. Now looking back at it you can feel how because of something or someone you felt like that. And now think, what would you be at if you hadn’t let your happiness come through someone or something else. What would it be if you had let the happiness come from you. What would it have been like if you knew that you are of much much more worth than letting your sadness come from someone else.
We put our efforts and expect something in return. But if we put our efforts in us then we wouldn’t be doing any expecting because there’s a direct return for what we give ourselves. Put all your efforts when you have put yourself first for you. We implant our happiness somewhere else and get hurt but if we implant it in us, a lot of drama will get cut. We are worthiest enough for our own self.
The moment we put our own happiness in the hands on something else we start expecting and our balloons burst. But the moment we put it in our own hands, we’re just a bunch of flying balloons on our own way.
Look it’s pretty simple but yet difficult at the same time. We have got so used to our happiness coming from everywhere else that when I ask you to bring it from yourself it’s a tad bit not normal. But try it. Try getting happiness from your own self, try to not expect anything in return when you put your efforts somewhere else. Your happiness is too precious to be covered in tears.
And yes, it will be okay soon. But, when you have just been through something or you are going through something you just do you. Sometimes cry, because it helps you feel light. Or do whatever you feel like doing at that point.
But remember, at all costs you just have to keep yourself happy. When you realize that you value a lot, that all you have to do is keep yourself happy by doing something for yourself then that is all that will matter.
There’s this one poem in Hindi in ZNMD (movie Zindagi Na Milegi Dobara) that always keeps me going:
Jab jab dard ka baadal chhaya
Jab gham ka saya lehraya
Jab aansoo palkon tak aya
Jab yeh tanha dil ghabraya
Humne dil ko ye samjhaya
Dil aakhir tu kyun rota hai
Duniya mein yunhi hota hai
Yeh jo gehre sannaate hain
Waqt ne sabko hi baante hain
Thoda gham hai sabka kissa
Thodi dhoop hai sabka hissa
Aankh teri bekaar hi nam hai
Har pal ek naya mausam hai
Kyun tu aise pal khota hai
Dil aakhir tu kyun rota hai..
Keep Yourself Happy. The rest will be okay.