Of course, criticism is not a feel-good thing, we all want and like to be praised and appreciated. But it can work positively on your part, depending on the way you handle them in your favour.
Criticism is a part of this dynamic life. You are alive, working and performing according to your skills, thoughts, and beliefs, which is obviously not at all guarantee thing to be always in the pleasure of the measuring scale of your surrounding lives. ‘There is only one way to avoid criticism: do nothing, say nothing and be nothing.’ Aristotle.
You need not be a perfectionist but your work must give you the satisfaction to the soul. As Winston Churchill said, ‘ Criticism may not be agreeable, but it is necessary. It fulfils the same function as pain in the human body. It calls attention to the unhealthy state of things.’ Don’t get personal to any criticism, because they don’t define us. Always remember, criticism provides the scope for growth, otherwise you become stagnant. As Norman Vincent Peale said,’ the trouble with most of us is that we had rather be ruined by praise than saved by criticism.’
a) Identify the source of criticism:
Yes, locate the source, e.g, the value of the person in your life, or how much value you grant personally to the person. Is it really a person to look up to? Or a person who takes the pleasure of the same. Is there anything to learn from the life and work of the person, who you feel criticising you. Answer to such questions will guide you with whether to take the criticism constructively or simply to overlook it.
b) Keep yourself calm:
You must understand the fact that you have control only over yourself, and your thoughts, actions, and beliefs. You bear no control over what the second, a third or fourth person thinks, believes or acts. So, rather than giving attention to criticism, focus on your internal peace. Shield your mental peace and filter your thoughts against demeaning energy. Avoid blaming others, or situations. Instead, move forward to take some responsibility if possible. This will reduce unnecessary hullabaloo, and will increase your confidence in solving them.
c) Be broad-minded and open :
Take the criticism broadly and openly. Work on it and use it for your betterment. Consider the criticism logically. Pick up the ones that can polish you to better. No matter what, if you open-mindedly handle and work on the criticism, you are definitely on the gaining side. When we get immobilized by negative emotions, our life resembles a load of burden, to carry which we literally drag lifetime. Our thoughts, actions, beliefs greatly determine the productivity and efficiency of our lives. Life is to be lived, not to survive. As the eminent personality Robin Sharma says, “To live happier and more fulfilling lives, when we encounter difficult circumstances, we must keep shifting our perspective and continually ask ourselves, „‘is a there wiser, and more enlightened way of looking at this seemingly negative situation’
d) Motivate yourself:
Be kind and understanding toward yourself. Do not live under peer pressure. It is good enough if you excel in the respective area, but it’s ok even if you are not, there is always a scope of something or the other. Don’t get personal to any criticism, because they don’t define you. Always remember, criticism can also be taken in a constructive manner. Otherwise, you become stagnant. Program your mind with inspiring thoughts, and polish your will power. Believe in what you are doing and imagine the better-changed life you are aspiring to have. Insecurity rises out of emotional dependency upon others. We depend much on others for their approval, admiration, appreciation, validation in order to feel happy. And we are a decline of all these emotional needs, we feel insecure and helpless.
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