Wellness of Emotions - Part 1

Emotional Wellness.

What is it all about? What is in it that is so important that we are asked to make it our top priority? What does it consist of that it becomes so much more important that even physical health? What do we do with Emotional Wellness?

How do we keep it?

You see, Emotional Wellness is not just about staying happy or finding the good in everything or in simple, about staying positive. Emotional wellness is about acknowledging what we are feeling. Recognizing our emotions and then dealing the best way out with it for ourselves. There are numerous ways for us to numb the pain, for us to push away what we are feeling for moments of pretend happiness that cloud out when we are alone. Emotional wellness is not about going past your emotions but about walking towards it and taking the higher road. We’ve all heard the quote from ‘The Fault in our Stars’ that pain demands to be felt but we have also heard Shakespeare say that the Fault is not in the stars, but in us. You see that’s the difference. The almost vanished away line between numbing the pain and feeling the pain. Emotional Wellness is about keeping you well when your emotions get the best out of you.

These words are good to listen to but how do we get our personal emotional wellness in play? What do we do to for it? Here’s what you can do:

Step 1: Aware

Certain emotions make you react in a certain way. Know what makes you happy, angry, sad, and frustrated and try working on them. Try working on these emotions or recognizing the attached reactions. Sometimes, we are aware of what makes us sad (for example) but we sometimes ignore the emotion that bubbles in us. Instead of ignoring it or turning away from the cause of our reaction, we can look at it and try changing it. But the first step is always to be aware of what we are feeling and why we are feeling that way.

Step 2: Express

Let it out. Let people you trust and are close to know how you are feeling. Keeping things inside you won’t make you feel better. Sometimes we feel that it’s just something stupid or why burden someone else with our problems, or maybe shutting it away will make it go away. But, no. Sharing is caring. For yourself. And this step is very important because in some part of our lives we have all been there. Bottling it up all inside us, not speaking out, staying cooped with ourselves or even putting up a mask of fake emotions.

But don’t do that. Express. Whatever you are feeling. Even if it is the smallest of things or even something huge that you are embarrassed of. Your real ones will never judge you instead they will eagerly wait for you to open up. Say it.

Step 3: Think

You might be wondering, think? That’s what I do all day with my time. But yet, one small thing that triggers a reaction from you and all of your thinking ability is thrown out of the window. So, think before you act. I have a tip here. There are 4 major situations where no matter what, you have to calm yourself down, think, breathe and then react.

And they are HALT: Hungry Angry Lonely and Tired.

When you are in either of these moods and something happens that gets a reaction out from you, don’t react instantly. Calm down. Take a moment to think. It is only then that’ll you will realize that things that could have gone down have a different approach too.

So think. Before reacting, before jumping out.

Step 4: Manage

Manage what?

Your time? Yes. But what’s even more important? Your stress

The higher your levels of stress, the more are the chances of you falling in the trap of any illness. We often get busy with the world, taking large amounts of responsibilities on our shoulders, so much work and sometimes it’s even emotional stress. There’s this huge block of so many emotions that gets you so stressed out. How will you manage your stress? It’s Simple. Relax yourself and give yourself time. Do anything that lets you loose and even if you can’t takeout hours, take out few minutes. Get yourself a massage, listen to music, go for a drive and whatnot.

But it is necessary for you to let yourself get relaxed.

Now I have a few more steps and they’ll come out in part 2. But, until then do start working on these. Because you are running after everything in the world but it wont stay if you haven’t given yourself the necessary time. Because nothing else matters more than you do for you.

Nimisha Vora Member since June 14, 2020

Heyy you! This is Nimisha, a girl who loves adventures and would never pass a chance to travel. I believe that each one of us has a story which is worth living and no matter what, there's always a you for yourself.

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