Relationships are always the most valued possessions and when it comes to the parent-child relationship it undergoes crests and troughs but at the end remains strongest of all.
Everybody changes as they mature not only physically but also mentally. Even as an adult, a person isn’t the same as they were 10 years ago. Their interests change, their understanding mature and the experience shapes one’s outlook of life. Also, an increase in age doesn’t reduce the challenges faced in parent-child relationships. There’s always chances of conflict and growth in a relationship.
Besides, with children growing up and undergoing physical and mental changes the relationship must evolve as well. Parents should learn how to connect with them in a new way. Perhaps parents may assume that they still need assistance when they don’t.
Children might encounter identity crisis and find it hard to make decisions, they might have different political and religious beliefs, boundaries and frequency of contacts might differ, financial disagreements and a lot more challenges might occur while dealing with maturing children.
Steering these family roles needs a lot of practice and communication. Opinions, decisions about family roles might differ. While one doesn’t have to agree with each other but treating their decisions with respect would prove a lot more receptive in a relationship. Let’s take a look at a few points on a few strategies for teenagers to communicate this respect and building a healthy relationship with parents:
Taking responsibility – to set mature boundaries with parents don’t ask them to do things that you can do by yourselves.
Stay in contact – not returning for Thanksgiving or a festival might seem easier. Remember when you were a kid you had no escape, but choosing not to speak to them as an adult is what many choose. If one can develop good communication with parents they can do it with anyone.
Honour your parent’s legacy – listen to their stories and help them preserve memories, because you don’t really want to wait until it’s too late to know your family history. This would help them feel valued and respected in days to come when late adulthood hits them where one may feel forgotten by the younger generation.
It’s never too late to start off modifying your relationship implementing one of these strategies. Give your parents the same explanation and patience like you would do to anyone you care. When you see challenges as a benefit to grow, never let them go. Consider this as a start to a new phase of the most precious relationship that you’d treasure for life.